Reflection

Recently I turned 26 and it dawned on me that my pursuit of success/wealth/the good life entered it’s 7th year. Had you asked me at 19 “will you have achieved the good life by 26?” I would have answered “Hell Yeah!” Which makes me ponder why I haven’t? And – What can I do to ensure I’m not thinking the same question in the following 7 years?

Doubt, uncertainty and frustration swill round my mind when I reflect on what I’ve achieved and use that as a template for the upcoming years. To say I’m disappointed is an understatement. However, what I find remarkably fascinating is; I have only just stumbled upon this realisation.

What I also find frustrating and fascinating at the same time is my laziness. I’m not working anywhere near as hard as I used to, I also procrastinate more than ever. And yet the desire for the good life remains. What does this mean? I don’t know yet.

Maybe I have unrealistic expectations.

What I am certain of is this is a natural part of the process, I’m confident that most people reading this will have felt or will feel like this in pursuit of what they want. And as Jim Rohn would say; “Don’t wish for fewer problems wish for more skills”. I must become more to get more.

Another challenge I face is the abundance of opportunity knocking on my door;

  • Cryptocurrency
  • Online course
  • Mentoring
  • Reach To Clean Franchises
  • Social Media Marketing
  • Forex
  • Stock Market
  • Property
  • Shopify
  • Amazon FBA

I’m grateful for all the above, knowing where to start is the challenge, but I’m grateful for that too and all the other challenges I face.

I hope you’ve found value in this raw, unstructured post. My Key takeaway  – I need  direct access to a billionaire/millionaire mentor.

Peace out

Joe

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Have The Confidence To Be You

The only way we can have everything we want from life is by becoming a different person. And by that I don’t me completely changing your personality and the way you act so your loved ones don’t recognise you, but merely becoming more you. Emphasizing what makes you, YOU!

No Worries, Be Happy

The main reason I change the way I behave is, I’m conscious of what people will think. What will they think of me? What judgement will they make?

When I’m in this frame of mind I tell myself – it’s none of my business what other people think of me!

We are allowed to think what we like, there is no law on thinking…yet! And, besides 9 times out of 10 my assumptions (or paranoia) to what people are thinking are normally wrong. In fact, what they’re thinking probably isn’t about me – being self-centred just comes natural.

Express Yourself

The only way to be truly happy is to ooze your personality into every conversation and interaction. Accept who you are and be comfortable with it.

You are unique. Sure, not everyone will like you, but someone will love you.

Joe

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When Life Gives You Lemons, Make Orange Juice

Life throws many obstacles and curve balls at us, that we have no control over. However, it’s not what happens to us that will determine our future, but what we do about what happens to us – how we react is the most important action.

Reacting to situations the way we’ve always done will get the same results we’ve always had. If we want different results, we must change how we act.

Pick someone who you aspire to become – a role model – and study how they would act. Mirror them, become them.

Be careful when picking your role model; my top tip is to go for someone who has achieved exactly what you want to do and nothing less!

Joe

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A Mind That Never Stops!

My mind constantly ticks over – there’s always thoughts running through it, some are rational and others I should probable be sectioned for.

“Everything starts as a thought”

I’m often lost in my own world for what appears to be hours, but in reality only a few seconds have drifted on by.

I can count on one hand the times my mind has been still and empty during the past year. And even then it was only for a passing moment.

The Calm After The Storm

However, I have recently found two ways to calm the storm. Hopefully they are as effective for you as they are for me;

Writing

Pouring my mind onto paper, this blog and my book flushes everything out, like water draining out of a sink. At first, I can write lots in a short space of time and then it gets less and less until there’s nothing left – just emptiness. Peacefulness!

Love

Being around my girlfriend quietens my mind. A person having this effect on me is something I haven’t experienced before.

It makes me wonder what effects other people could have; maybe someone else could inspire me to think of new ideas or dispel old beliefs.

If you have found a different way to calm the mind I would love to hear about it, get in touch by one of the methods below.

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Let Fear Be The Ignition That Starts The Engine

Have you ever allowed fear to stop you from doing something? I know I have; if I look back at my life, every time I regret not doing something, it’s always the same reason no matter the circumstance – FEAR.

Fear of;

  • Not being good enough
  • Failing
  • What other people will think
  • Pain and suffering
  • Not being in control
  • Success
  • Intimacy

Every single one of the above has influenced at least one decision during my life. The crazy thing is, the fear seems so ridiculous in hindsight. This makes me wonder if the majority, if not all our fears are ridiculous.

If I could go back in time and make the decisions again I’d feel the fear, tell myself I can handle whatever happens, and do it anyway. Which begs the questions why don’t we do the same with our current fears?

Not doing something I want to do today, because of fear in this moment, will lead to my older self having the same scenario to deal with. When I could just take the advice I’d give my younger self and use it RIGHT NOW!

Assuming we’re not talking about jumping off a cliff or, another life and death scenario;

Let fear be the ignition that starts the engine.

Don’t let fear to stop you from designing your own life.

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Your Words Are Your Wand

jayneblogMy name is Jayne I am 52 years old and I started on this journey of a spiritual and holistic outlook on life in 2003. I trained as a Reiki practitioner and then onto become a Reiki master and teacher. From there my awareness grew and also my intuition so I started doing readings and helping others to find clarity and move forward by tapping in to their inner selves and finding empowerment to move forward. Today I have grown my business through referrals and repeat business and I have helped people internationally as well as nationally from all walks of life.

The Power of Your Spoken Word

Since the beginning of time words have power as every vowel and letter and every word carries a particular energy frequency to it. You can always feel this with certain words that you say and how it makes you feel. You will feel that some words energise or even uplift you and some words feel heavy and even negative this will lower your energy and feelings.

For example if we continue to say phrases or words such as “I am sick of this “or” nothing ever goes right for me ” or ” my life is going nowhere ” or “I am going to have a bad day ” etc. Then this is the reality you will eventually attract as the thoughts and words you use are subconsciously creating a new external reality where this will become true.

If you wish to start creating and having a more prosperous life start saying more uplifting and positive phrases and words such as  “Today will be  a great day my life is flowing effortlessly” or  “I am leading a fulfilling life”  or “I step into my day with vitality and ease”.

Choosing statements starting with the words “I am” or “I can” or “I will” or  “I choose” are all words that empower you not dis empower you  like “I can’t” or “I won’t” etc.
Our mind takes in our words and starts to create our life from these words as it does not know any different .

Someone who speaks of ill health all the time will eventually start to feel ill as this is becoming inbuilt into their subconscious . Someone who speaks of vitality and good health and expresses gratitude for what they have in life will help their immune system and body to stay healthy. Same with if you can use words of positivity in your work and relationships this will bring these qualities and effects into your life. It only takes 28 days to change a habit or thought in the mind so as you go about your day be conscious of your words and how you speak to yourself and even how you interact with others. We can uplift others with words and change their outlook to life.

By been grateful daily for what we have in our lives even the small things this can create changes in our lives as gratitude makes us feel better. Most of the time we focus on what we feel is missing in our lives or what we haven’t got when in fact we have a lot to be thankful for if we look more closely at our lives.

So today start and monitor how you talk to yourself or the words you use is it negative self-talk or positive self-talk?  You have the power within you to change your life one step at a time and most importantly one word at a time. Your words are your wand!!

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The Subconscious Mind

“We become what we think about” – Earl Nightingale

Your mind is split into two halves; the conscious and the subconscious.

The conscious mind controls voluntary movements such as walking, talking and lifting things.

And you guessed it, the subconscious mind controls involuntary movements such as blinking and the beating of the heart.

The Nightclub

When it comes to thoughts and the two halves of your mind I like to use the nightclub analogy.

The conscious mind is like a bouncer and the subconscious like the nightclub.  When thoughts queue up to enter the nightclub (subconscious) the bouncer (conscious), decides if they can enter.

 
Getting New Thoughts into the Nightclub

The advantage with the nightclub in your mind over the nightclub on the streets is you control the bouncer; you decide who gets in.

The key to getting new thoughts in, is to only think about what you want and not what you don’t want.

If we take losing weight as an example, you could have two different thoughts but want the same result. The two thoughts;

  • I don’t want to be fat
  • I want to be slim

The subconscious mind doesn’t understand negatives such as “don’t” and “will not”. This means the first example will become;

  • I want to be fat

The subconscious will accept this as a fact – a new thought entered the nightclub.


Summary

The subconscious mind is a vast subject; today we’ve only touched the tip of the iceberg.

Remember the key is to only think about what you want.

Thanks again for reading and I’ll see you soon.

Joe

Advice I’d give my 12 year old self

You’re probably too proud to admit this. You fear the world, what people think and failure.

Thinking back to when I was 12 seems like such a long time ago but weirdly it also feels like it was yesterday.

A change in mind set from being clouded by fear, to mind focused on opportunity and enjoying life, is the main reason 12 feels like a long time ago.

It feels like yesterday as I can remember how I felt; anxious, scared and nervous.

12’s a big year, it’s the last before becoming a teenager. It’s the year I started high school and it’s also half my current age.

Hopefully the advice I give will benefit my 12 year old self.


Dear Joe,

I’m writing to you from 12 years in the future. You’re now 24 years old and while you’ve lived a fantastic life, I have some advice for you.

You’re curious and you ask a lot of questions, never lose this!! Ask as many questions you can think of. Those who ask questions generally find the answers.

You’re probably too proud to admit this. You fear the world, what people think and failure. You will fail time and time again but don’t let this discourage you. Keep going, keep striving for what you want.

Get out of your comfort zone it’s the fastest way to grow. The world is a brilliant place, don’t be afraid of it; explore it, enjoy it.

Don’t worry what people think, haters are gunna hate so shake it off! You should probably write a song with these lyrics 😊

Girls are coming into the equation soon. Be brave, be bold, remember they’re just as scared as you.  Talking of girls, you’ll be moved seats in Mr Tiley’s year 10 maths class, remember it and enjoy it.


Money is not the be all and end all, invest to get what you want. Use it to create memories with friends and family.

Put other people first. If you help as many people as possible get what they want, you will have everything you want.

Be careful who you take advice from, if you don’t want what they have it may be worthwhile not taking their advice. Look at your parents and ask yourself do you want their lifestyle?

If you’re worried about your health, a good cry and a check-up will prevent 6 years of being scared.

After all that, my number one piece of advice is find out who you are and what you want from life. Find your purpose, find your passion. Decide what you want and write it down. Have fun and don’t waste time doing something that doesn’t interest you.

Good luck

Joe

How to Win on Wednesdays

So it’s Wednesday!!! Some call it the hump of the week.

How do you look at Wednesdays, is it with anticipation or apprehension?

Anticipation

Do you look forward to it being Wednesday? And if you do why?

Is it because you’re half way through the ‘9-5 week’ and there’s only 2 days until you can drink yourself into oblivion? There’s only 2 days until you have a break from working a job you don’t enjoy.

If this resonates with you it would be extremely worthwhile to find a career you love. Something that makes you jump out of bed to invest your 8 hours each day. Find your purpose, find your mission.

On the other hand, if you look forward to Wednesdays because you still have at least 2 full days to work the job you love, then you’re well on your way to designing your own life.

Apprehension

“Oh no it’s ONLY Wednesday, why can’t it be Friday?” If this is your mind set don’t despair, it used to be mine. Hopefully I can help you out of the darkness and into the light.

One of the most effective ways to change your mind from a negative state to a positive one is by being thankful for what you do have. And if you’re hating the hump of the week you’ll most likely have a job.

Be grateful you have a job, be grateful you an income, be grateful you have the opportunity and ability to have everything you want.

Changing your mind set

Your mind cannot become positive overnight, it takes; study, practice and discipline.

“If you want to be Happy study Happiness, if you want to be wealthy study wealth” – Jim Rohn

I recommend you start with study; you cannot practice something you do not know. A fantastic book to read is Little Gold Book of Yes! Attitude by Jeffrey Gitomer

It’s a short book, you can finish it in under an hour but don’t let that fool you. The value I took from it totally revolutionized my life.

I was in a dark place when I found the Little Gold Book of Yes! It gave me ideas that I still use today. It sparked the changed from negative to positive and for that I’ll be forever grateful!

You cannot think of new ideas in a negative state, that is why a positive mind is invaluable.

Summary 

Thanks again for investing your time in my blog, I hope you have found it valuable.

I would really appreciate feedback, please comment or email me.

See you soon!

Joe