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Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi

A networking book that delivers a knockout punch of value. Networking and meeting new people is a weakness of mine so you can imagine I found this book incredibly useful. I’d say it’s on a par with Dale Carnegie’s classic – How to Win Friends and Influence People.

If you’re like me and would like to improve your networking arsenal, take a look at what I wrote in my journal;

  • Until you become as willing to ask for help as you are to give it, you are only working half the equation.
  • The summary of networking is generosity.
  • It’s easier to get ahead in the world when those below you are happy to help you get ahead, rather than hoping for your downfall.
  • A goal is a dream with a deadline.
  • There is genius, even kindness in being bold.
  • Don’t network – make friends.
  • “Spectacular achievement is always preceded by spectacular preparation” – Robert H.Schuller.
  • Secretaries and assistants are gatekeepers to the bosses and CEOs. They must like you/become your friend if you are to get the most from the relationship with their boss.
  • Your network is like a muscle, the more you work it the bigger it gets.
  • Give yourself between 12 and 24 hours after meeting someone to follow up. A simple “it was a pleasure meeting you and discussing…” Then drop another email in a month – use phone calendar for reminder.
  • When you enter a room full of people, step to the right. See who is there. You want the other people to see you.
  • Learn to touch people. Shake hands or the authors personal favourite is touching a persons elbow.
  • Express your desire to meet again when closing the conversation e.g. “It’s been really interesting chatting with you, let’s do this again.”
  • Wisdom from Dale Carnegie;
  1. “Become genuinely interested in other people”
  2. “Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves”
  3. “Let the other person do a great deal of the talking”
  4. “Smile”
  5. “Talk in terms of the other person’s interests”
  6. “Give honest and sincere appreciation”
  • When you land in a new country message people “Hi Jan, Just landed in New York and it made me think of you. No time to meet this trip, but just wanted to touch base.”
  • Invite people round for dinner – no need to cook. Starter – crisps/chips and salsa. Main – Cooked chicken and salad wraps. Dessert – cookies and ice cream.
  • 8 Steps of dinner parties;
  1. Have a theme – meatloaf recipes, black tie, vegan food, organic, music
  2. Plan an invite people through email, social media
  3. Don’t spend time in the kitchen – pre-cook
  4. Create an atmosphere – music, candles, flowers, young child as waiter
  5. Keep it informal – jeans and jacket
  6. Don’t seat couples together – can use placeholders (name tags on seats)
  7. Relax
  8. Host virtual after party – send thanks for coming with pics of event.
  • People don’t only hire people they like, they hire people who can make their company better.

 

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A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

A very deep book that requires some thinking time to properly grasp the meanings and truly understand the author. If you intend to read it ensure to have a pen and paper at the ready, here’s what I wrote;

  • This book is about you. It will change your state of consciousness or it will be meaningless. It can only awaken those who are ready.
  • (reading this book made me realise there’s so much I don’t understand)
  • The only difference between a crazy person and a sane person is they talk out loud.
  • The consciousness that says “I am thinking” is not the consciousness that thinks e.g. if you think about a dog, what it looks like, sounds etc the part of the mind that knows you are thinking about the dog is a different dimension of consciousness. If there was nothing but thought in you, you wouldn’t know you was thinking. You would be like a dreamer who doesn’t know they are dreaming.
  • Ego is identification with form
  • All think is required to become free of ego is be aware of it. Awareness and ego are incompatible.
  • The underlying emotion that governs all the activity of the ego is fear.
  • The most the ego can ever do to cover up the fear temporarily with an intimate relationship, new procession or winning at something.
  • “How can I be myself?” is in fact the wrong question. It implies you have to do something to be yourself.
  • Who are you? Consciousness that has become conscious of it’s self.
  • You may not want to know yourself becasue you are afraid of what you may find out. Many people have a secret fear that they are bad.
  • When you drink alcohol, you may feel relaxed, more carefree and perhaps more alive for a while because you are less burdened by your mind, you can glimpse the joy of being. Perhaps this is the reason alcohol is also called spirit.

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Super Brain by Deepak Chopra and Rudolph E. Tanzi

Another super book packed full of value, this one was recommended by Daniela Lopez! Here’s what I wrote down, hope you find value;

  • As we ag the brain produces new nerve cells, this can be stimulated by physical exercise, mentally stimulating activities (such as reading) and social connectedness.

How to expand your consciousness;

  • Put a higher value on being awake, alert aware.
  • Resist conformity. Don’t think and act like everyone else
  • Value yourself. Don’t wait for the approval of others to validate you. Instead of desiring external validation strive to help others.
  • Question your own core beliefs
  • Keep faith that inner growth is an ending process.

 

How to transform your perceptions;

  • Be sceptical of fixed reactions, both yours and anyone else.
  • Confront old conditioning – it leads to unconscious behaviour.
  • Be aware of your emotions and where they come from.
  • Examine your core beliefs, hold them up to the light, and discard beliefs that make you stuck.
  • Practice empathy so that you can experience the world through someone else’s eyes.

 

 

  • Awareness is noticing you are feeling an emotion e.g. “I am angry/sad” etc
  • Self-awareness is asking “What do I think about being angry? What does it mean?”
  • Loosing Weight – An imbalance in the brain circuitry results when the areas for impulsive behaviour are strengthened while areas for rational decision making have been weakened. The repetition of negative patterns also harms decision making because when you blame yourself or feel like a failure, lower parts of your brain are once again over-riding your cerebral cortex. Balance is restored when you make a self-enhancing decision – good food or not eating due to an emotional fix.
  • No one speaks of the wisdom of the sex drive, but our instinctively driven emotions are definitely wise. They stand for the kind of awareness that leads us to be happy.
  • Responding to any situation requires understanding, reacting doesn’t.

 

Good suffering you don’t need;

  • Taking the blame for someone else’s mistakes.
  • Covering up abuse, physical or mental.
  • Allowing yourself to be belittled in public.
  • Letting your children disrespect you.
  • Not speaking your truth.
  • Denying yourself sexual fulfilment.
  • Pretending to love.
  • Working at a job you hate.

 

  • Rigidity leads to ritualistic behaviour (rigidity = rigid people). Taken to an extreme, rigidity leads to severe judgements against others enforcing rules with harsh punishments.
  • Fear becomes worse when you are seriously ill, yet dealing with anxiety is far more effective if you attend to it years before you ever get sick. The mind-body connection has to be strengthened before trouble arises.
  • Meditation can increase the enzyme that replenishes telomeres – the anti-ageing chemical. Mediation keeps us young.
  • Drink red wine other alcohol for anti-ageing.
  •  Studies have shown that loosing a spouse suddenly leads to isolation, depression, higher risk for disease and shortened life span. But if you have a social network beyond your spouse you have a cushion against these baleful consequences.
  • Falling asleep during meditation is not failure, your brain is taking what it needs most.
  • We aren’t machines that learned to think, we are thoughts that learned how to make machines.

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Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins

There’s lots of value packed into this book, I’m going to keep this post as short as possible so I will jump right in;

  • Know that it is your decisions and not your conditions that determine your destiny.
  • It is not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what these events mean.
  • All personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs. The most effective way is to get the brain to associate massive pain to the old belief.
  • If we are to change quickly we must hold two beliefs;
  1. that we can change now
  2. we’re responsible for our own change, not anyone else.
  • To create long-term change we must have 3 beliefs on responsibility;
  1. first we must believe “Something must change” not should or could, but must.
  2. we must believe “I must change it”
  3. “I can change it”
  • Link pleasure to any behaviour you want to repeat
  • The key to success is to create patterns of movement that create confidence, a sense of strength, flexibility, a sense of personal power and fun.
  • Getting old is not a matter of age, it’s a lack of movement. And the ultimate lack of movement is death.
  • Successful people asked better questions, and as a result got better answers.
  • Change your state by asking the following 5 questions;
  1. What is great about this problem?
  2. What is not perfect yet?
  3. What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
  4. What am no longer willing to do in order to make it the way I want it?
  5. How can I enjoy the process?
  • The words you habitually choose also affect how you communicate with yourself and therefore what you experience.
  • Words shape our beliefs and impact our actions.
  • By adopting some else habitual vocabulary, you begin to adopt their emotional patterns.
  • A whole set of rules, ideas and preconceived emotions accompany any metaphor you adopt.
  • The emotions you once thought of as negative are merely calls to action.
  • 6 steps to emotional mastery;
  1. Identify what you’re really feeling
  2. Acknowledge and appreciate your emotions knowing they support you.
  3. Get  curious about the message the emotion is offering you.
  4. Get confident
  5. Get certain you can handle this not only today, but in the future as well.
  6. Get excited and take action.
  • Sometimes we need to trust that our disappointments may truly be opportunities in disguise.
  • As long as we structure our lives in a way where our happiness is dependent upon something we cannot control, then we will experience pain.
  • Procrastination – instead of saying “I should start this project” say, ” I must finish this project”. Change your shoulds to musts.
  • “A man’s mind stretched to a new idea never goes back to it’s original dimensions” – Oliver Wendel Holmes
  • Loss is imaginary. Nothing ever disappears in the universe, it only changes form.
  • The key to wealth is to be more valuable.
  • Most important way to expand your income is to devise a way to consistently add value to peoples lives, and you will prosper.
  • The true purpose of any cooperation is to create products and services that increase the quality of life for all the customers they serve.
  • Donating/giving money away convinces your brain you have more money than you need/an abundance of money.

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Secrets of the Millionaire Mind by T. Harv Eker

Another great book and another on the subject of wealth. I’m probably reading money books at the minute because I have no income. This is a classic, it’s the first time I’ve read Secrets of the Millionaire Mind however I have listen the audio-book and that is equally as good!.

Here’s the value I found, hope you find it useful;

  • Thoughts lead to feelings; Feelings lead to actions; Actions lead to results
  • We are conditioned in 3 primary ways;
  1. Verbal programming – what did you hear when you were growing up?
  2. Modelling – What did you see when you were young?
  3. Specific incidents – What did you experience when you were young?
  • When the subconscious mind must choose between deeply rooted emotions and logic. Emotions will almost always win.
  • Rich people believe “I create my life”. Poor people believe “life happens to me”.
  • Rich people play the money game to win. Poor people play the money game to not loose.
  • Rich people are committed to being rich. Poor people want to be rich.
  • Rich people think big. Poor people think small.
  • Rich people focus on opportunities. Poor people focus on obstacles.
  • Rich people admire other rich and successful people. Poor people resent rich and successful people.
  • Rich people associate with positive, successful people. Poor people associate with negative, unsuccessful people.
  • Rich people are willing to promote themselves and their value. Poor people think negatively about selling and promoting.
  • Rich people are bigger than their problems. Poor people are smaller than their problems.
  • Rich people are excellent receivers. Poor people are poor receivers.

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Give This A Listen…Please!

In May I wrote a post titled  When You Can’t Read – Listen!  with the message being when it’s inconvenient or impossible to read, listen to audio books instead.

Today, I have another audio book to add to your collection. Average Joe’s Secrets to Personal Development just hit audible’s shelves! What’s more it’s at a special discounted price for a few days only. And even better than that, if you’re new to audible you can listen for free by signing up to there 30 day trial.

Here’s the link , hope you enjoy – http://adbl.co/28O80yX

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3 Must Read Blogs!

Tired of reading the same personal development books over and over again? Are you looking for something fresh with a new perspective?

I’ve got you covered! Here are three of my favourite personal growth blogs, as much as I love writing about this subject not all my ideas are original some of them are inspired by these great blogs.

Follow the below websites for wisdom, inspiration and step by step instructions to becoming a better you.

The Seeds 4 Life
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www.theseeds4life.com

This brilliantly, simple blog is packed with tons of great articles, each one starts with a quote. Their articles are called seeds and they’re split into 10 different categories, Change, Dreams, Growth and Happiness to name a few.

Tim Ferriss

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fourhourworkweek.com

I first heard of Tim Ferriss after reading his best-selling book – The 4-Hour Work Week – if you haven’t read it, grab your copy today.

I learned from the Tim the need of working on the most important tasks first and delegating the unimportant, but urgent tasks.

Leo Gura

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www.actualized.org

I found Leo on YouTube, that’s where most of his content lives. His videos range from 20 minutes to 1 hour 20, and cover topics from motivation to spiritual enlightenment. If you’re a visual learner check him out!

 

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If You Don’t Like How Things Are, Change It! You’re Not a Tree – Jim Rohn

Unlike trees, we have been given the ability to choose. We can decide where we live, who we spend time with, what we do for a career and how we invest our free time.

Having so much choice is something I often take for granted; for instance, when I’m buying tooth paste I often complain there’s too much choice – there are more toothpaste than there are days of the week!

And deciding what career I wanted after High School was another mind-boggling decision, in fact I’m still not 100% sure what I want to be when I grow up.

Having said this, the opportunity of choice is an amazing thing. If we don’t like something we have the power to change it. Now change probably doesn’t happen as quickly as we’d like, but if we’re determined and persistent, it will happen.

Before you leave this page ask yourself the following 3 questions;

  • What don’t I like about my life?
  • Why do I want to change those areas?
  • How can I change them?

If you want a different answer, ask a different question – Tony Robbins

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Don’t Be a Follower, Be a Student

This post is aimed at the followers, if you’re leader there’s no need to read any further.

There’s nothing wrong with being a follower, in fact there are many things that are great. Less responsibility being one that quickly springs to mind.

But, I would ask are you an intelligent follower? Do you make your own mind up about the details of life?

When presented with new information, maybe from a leader or from another place such as Google, do you accept it as the truth or do you study it, and make your own conclusions?

Make your own mind up about the information you receive.

An intelligent follower becomes a leader very quickly.

Who do you have to become to be a leader?

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Your Past Does Not Define You

Your past does not make who you are today, it is merely evidence of all you have gone through to get to where you are. Use all the experiences that have happened, learn from them and invest them in today.

Be better today than you were yesterday; it only needs to be by the smallest of margins for you to see a massive impact over time.

We all have greatness within us; all we need to find is the key that unlocks the door. You can become the person you were born to be; I believe in you.

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Short and sweet today but, I believe you will find value in every sentence.

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